Suicide amongst Construction workers is not as uncommon as it should be.
Christmas 2017 saw the death of a number of good tradesmen, family men. Each person had their own reason(s) for doing what they did and each situation will be so personal and complex that it is almost impossible to try and understand.
However one thing that is certain is that if those people felt able to talk about their thoughts with friends, family or even complete strangers the chances are they wouldn’t have done it.
Keeping things to yourself and suffering in silence is something we are all guilty of but is all too common in men. Men are naturally proud of an ability to support, provide and be a figurehead for family and friends. Telling others our problems feels weak and as if we are being a burden on loved ones when all we want to do is take their problems and help support them.
Sometimes being unbearably unhappy comes with no reason. Sometimes it can hit the most successful, normally happy people with everything going for them. In that situation it can become increasingly frustrating and become unbearable to maintain a happy facade. Talking about it can seem completely non optional mostly due to the fact that you can’t even explain why you are unhappy – you just are. Being happy can sometimes build unexpected pressure. Fear of becoming unhappy and losing whatever it is that makes you happy can break a person.
Talk to real people about how you feel. There is always someone in your phone book, on your Facebook, online groups, friends, family and so on who would love to know that you are not ok so they can help, just how you know that you would want to help them if they were feeling the same.
Maybe try and imagine somebody close to you killing themselves with no warning. Consider the aftermath. How would you feel? Where do you get answers? Is there children left behind? How do you explain to them what’s happened? Consider the guilt of not knowing that person was so low?
Killing yourself can kill your entire family and friends but the difference is they’re still alive to try and deal with it. They’re left with children to bring up and a lifetime of pain, guilt and confusion.
Nothing is irreparable whilst you’re living. But when you’re gone it’s too late.
Now, please talk to someone. Message us if you want to.
Take a few minutes to read some words from a good friend of mine who’s father committed suicide when she was just aged 21. Click below to read Laura’s story.
Here are some links to organisations dedicated to helping people who need it.
No one will be better off without you – Talk!!